So... As you may remember from my pregnancy dreams (and my nonpregnancy ones), I have a slight (or one could say fairly large, but really, who's counting...) crush on Daniel Craig. If you live under a rock, he is the latest James Bond. I'm normally not a fan of blondes (with Miss Maya being the grand exception) but there's something about his eyes and that square jaw that really get under my skin. In a good way.
(a publicity shot with Casino Royale's "Bond girl", Eva Green)
So, anyway, I admit it, I find him quite attractive and, the other night, as I was checking on when the next Bond film will be released during my moo-chine-ing (sadness... it's going to be at least 2010, possibly 2011...), I came across an article written after "Casino Royale" had come out (with the infamous coming-out-of-the-water shot where you can see, quite nicely, Mr. Bond's bod) and just prior to the release of "Quantum of Solace", where the actor is being asked about his "sex symbol" status. He responded with this quote: "I’m 40 now, and in five years’ time or even less, sex symbol might be a really kind of weird term to attach to myself. How about sexy father figure?”"
As I read this, I thought "how cute". But then the comment really got my goat. A woman could never say that. At 40 or 45, it's rare that a woman is still thought of as a sex symbol. She's more often thought of as "passed her prime" even though she may not even be middle aged yet! Mr. Craig was signed to do Bond movies at 38 (and yes, Bond needs to be in his mid-thirties at the earliest to chronologically fit, so, age wise he was a perfect fit) but when you think of Bond as a sex symbol, which he has been for decades, it puts things in quite the different perspective. That beautiful co-star that shares the picture I posted? She was 23. In fact, most Bond girls have a significant age difference from their Bond counterparts. As Peter said, it's common that you have a much younger "hot" woman than an older one. And, if she's significantly older than her male lead, it's (9 times out of 10) written into the story that way.
What an obsession we have with aging. I dont mind my grays. I dont dye them to hide them. I dont mind my wrinkles or the imperfections with my skin, so I dont bother to wear make-up either. I am who I am. Celebrities pay to look "on" all the time and we talk about how beautiful they are and then, when a tabloid snaps a picture where we can see cellulite or a makeupless whomever walking to the mailbox who looks less than red carpet fresh, we talk about how they've "let themself go". There arent 40+ year old women who chuckle about being called "sexy" and then say "I'd rather be thought of as a beautiful mother figure." Because playing the mother is reserved for old people and God knows, no one wants that kiss of death.
Like I said, this post has absolutely no point to it whatsoever. I know part of it comes from my own body consciousness. We change over time and it's hard to look back at who we were and who we are now. Mentally, I know I'm not even close to the girl I was before and the woman I am now knows that and is okay with that. That girl believed in the happy ending. This woman knows that happy endings only come with fairy tales and that every happiness is hard fought and hard won. But physically, this woman longs to be that girl with a 27 inch waist again, who was athletic and could run a good 4 miles without her knees having a hint of hurting. That girl who could fit into Peter's pants without unbuttoning them. I wasn't rail thin (nor would I want to be) but I felt good. After the PCOS and Hashimoto's were unlocked, that 27 inch waist disappeared. I have no issue with it disappearing in pregnancy, but I'd like to have it back outside of that. I dont need thinness. But I need to know that my kids wont grow up with hang ups about their weight or feel like Mommy is on a diet or unhappy with herself. And that brings me to the celebrity comment and the realization that I'm no better than the people star watching and waiting for the cellulite picture. It's just that I'm not watching Madonna; I'm judging the woman in the mirror instead. And damn; it's so easy to judge her...