tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post3921085737829339950..comments2023-10-26T04:01:17.116-04:00Comments on My Life After Loss: What a Difference...Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-53713208657092065332010-08-02T17:00:57.621-04:002010-08-02T17:00:57.621-04:00They are SO CUTE. And oh my the household stuff. S...They are SO CUTE. And oh my the household stuff. So hard.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-12617007805163287472010-07-28T18:26:37.254-04:002010-07-28T18:26:37.254-04:00I love you! Your honesty is amazing. Your so real....I love you! Your honesty is amazing. Your so real. For some reason after God has gotten me to families to Pray for when they are pregnant I stop following after the Miracles are here. With you its been different. I stayed and I am happy I did. <br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCuVHi_gwuY<br /><br /> That is a song by Lonestar. A must hear (since *cough* I get to hear your music when I stop in. lol) Its called "Let them Be Little". I was looking for that poem about the house will keep and such about kids growing up too fast, I think its by Erma Bombeck? Anyways, Keep on doing what your doing and I am happy to get what ever update you can get here be it daily or 1 x a mos. <br /><br />You will find a balance. What works for you guys. Hang in there. xoxo, Kandi AnnKandi Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02410855500274321915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-28039959583965046782010-07-27T13:56:52.261-04:002010-07-27T13:56:52.261-04:00Thank you for being so open & honest about how...Thank you for being so open & honest about how much a relationship can ( and will) change after children. Thank you! Many prayers & blessings to you & Peter!Tanikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787026953010260820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-4000483149205218732010-07-27T12:10:29.881-04:002010-07-27T12:10:29.881-04:00I want to thank you (no, CHEER You) for bravely sp...I want to thank you (no, CHEER You) for bravely speaking about this. So few people understand that "bringing home baby" does not connote happily ever after. Not after a couple has taken years and years of hits and loss and strain and so on.<br /><br />I "hear ya" on so many levels. So many that I don't even blog about. BUt what you wrote resonated with me like you can't believe.<br /><br />Thank YOU.<br /><br />Please keep exercising though. It helps keep Mommy semi-sane and healthy. You, Peter, and the kids deserve that.Ms. Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734867984972785143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-43529924841406479002010-07-25T21:53:57.383-04:002010-07-25T21:53:57.383-04:00That's a fantastic photo of Bobby and Maya, lo...That's a fantastic photo of Bobby and Maya, look how much they've grown! Good work mummy with keeping up with twins for a year!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10878562715014004523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-50039318203735158902010-07-24T12:18:07.268-04:002010-07-24T12:18:07.268-04:00It can be so easy to get off the same page as your...It can be so easy to get off the same page as your hubby! Just last night my DH and I had a little spit at each other. I think my DH will be looking forward to the end of this pregnancy. lolHollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-53933070324517671532010-07-23T23:03:55.490-04:002010-07-23T23:03:55.490-04:00It will get easier as the kids get older. Enjoy th...It will get easier as the kids get older. Enjoy them now. It goes so quickly. The house will always need cleaning. And for the most part it can wait. It isn't easy & 1950 tv moms didn't really live that way. When the kids are grown they will remember the time you spent w/ them & not that the house was spic & span. You're an excellent mom, wife & friend. You will find the balance that works for you. It's a huge adjustment in lifestyle. Like the other comments, give yourself a break. <br />Ps I still have laundry I washed last week folded in the living room floor- never made it to drawers. Oh well.Terri Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02725449450869870709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-23561624869005381122010-07-23T19:59:39.765-04:002010-07-23T19:59:39.765-04:00Don't be too hard on yourself. You have sooooo...Don't be too hard on yourself. You have sooooo much going on. I am thinking of you and your family!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-33848912259466021302010-07-23T19:39:31.331-04:002010-07-23T19:39:31.331-04:00i've said before...hubs and i were WAY closer ...i've said before...hubs and i were WAY closer after we lost the twins than we became after the ham was born!<br /><br />we can *barely* handle keeping up our house with one baby...AND WE HAVE A BI-MONTHLY CLEANING SERVICE!!!! so please, don't be so hard on yourself!<br /><br />when blogging becomes a chore...no. more. blogging. if you're like me, though, it's that you're so tired but you DO want to blog, that's the problem. ;)<br /><br />hugs michele!!! no need to comment on ANYTHING i write! i know you're there! :)Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-73105070149795687832010-07-23T19:34:59.670-04:002010-07-23T19:34:59.670-04:00Yep, what Ezra's Mom said. Thanks for this pos...Yep, what Ezra's Mom said. Thanks for this post. I needed it today in terms of "feeling less alone."<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-66691052810659160372010-07-23T16:04:50.128-04:002010-07-23T16:04:50.128-04:00please do not apologize for prioritizing. if you d...please do not apologize for prioritizing. if you didn't, down the road you'd have enormous regret. the most important things have to come first. and such beautiful important things they are. :)one-hit_wonderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02392238740961497297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-41989723706249023562010-07-23T13:03:30.499-04:002010-07-23T13:03:30.499-04:00I'm proud of you. And I thank you for your ho...I'm proud of you. And I thank you for your honesty. <br /><br />It sounds like you two are definitely on the right path now :) Thoughts and prayers as you walk down it.Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-16879699959603300082010-07-23T13:02:39.213-04:002010-07-23T13:02:39.213-04:00We have parented a lost baby, a singleton and are ...We have parented a lost baby, a singleton and are now on the roller coaster ride with our 18 month old twins. Every situation in parenting has been different from each other and parenting twins has by far been the most challenging! I remember just yesterday when they were becoming mobile and going in opposite directions...now we have added climbing on EVERYTHING into the mix. My home looks exactly as you have described yours. My hubby and I both work at opposite shifts so that one of us is always with the kids and we avoid daycare. We went through a really rough spot right after they were born and again when they hit a year old. The second was the worst and I am ashamed to say we actually talked about a divorce. But, after we aired it all out, we realized how much we really do love each other and desperately want to make things work. Things have gotten better as we are COMMUNICATING our feelings more and in ways that are just a statement so that they don't feel like an attack on each other. I feel for you and pray you too will get through this rough patch. Bobby and Maya have gotten so big and more adorable each time we see new pictures! Hang in there! <br />P.S. thank you for letting me know I am NOT the only one who hasn't mopped my floors since who knows when!! :)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03034620136080617248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-84948913452604732572010-07-23T13:02:11.536-04:002010-07-23T13:02:11.536-04:00We have parented a lost baby, a singleton and are ...We have parented a lost baby, a singleton and are now on the roller coaster ride with our 18 month old twins. Every situation in parenting has been different from each other and parenting twins has by far been the most challenging! I remember just yesterday when they were becoming mobile and going in opposite directions...now we have added climbing on EVERYTHING into the mix. My home looks exactly as you have described yours. My hubby and I both work at opposite shifts so that one of us is always with the kids and we avoid daycare. We went through a really rough spot right after they were born and again when they hit a year old. The second was the worst and I am ashamed to say we actually talked about a divorce. But, after we aired it all out, we realized how much we really do love each other and desperately want to make things work. Things have gotten better as we are COMMUNICATING our feelings more and in ways that are just a statement so that they don't feel like an attack on each other. I feel for you and pray you too will get through this rough patch. Bobby and Maya have gotten so big and more adorable each time we see new pictures! Hang in there! <br />P.S. thank you for letting me know I am NOT the only one who hasn't mopped my floors since who knows when!! :)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03034620136080617248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-41110390535738774272010-07-23T12:28:59.000-04:002010-07-23T12:28:59.000-04:00Just look at how far you have come and look how mu...Just look at how far you have come and look how much they have grown.<br />I haven't raised children while having children who have passed. I do know how you and Peter have fit together over the years. We were married for 7 years before we started our family. Things changed and they do for all couples when they have children. My days were long and when my husband would come home I would leave to go out and shop. It was easier then taking the kids. I never once gave thought to his day and him being tired. The direction you have gone in is so normal but it's times 2.<br />I am glad that you are now taking time to be together and slowing down on other things. Your marriage will click again but we must always be tuned in on the other persons feelings. ((HUGS))Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-87368842504018616912010-07-23T11:19:36.494-04:002010-07-23T11:19:36.494-04:00Don't be too hard on yourself! You are dealin...Don't be too hard on yourself! You are dealing with A LOT! Nobody is perfect, and you will find your way. <br /><br />I am so proud of you and your triathalon! Way to go! Good for you to make time for exercise, I wouldn't give that up!!!"Jay"https://www.blogger.com/profile/17519195747352626938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-32989650215128686112010-07-23T10:56:56.198-04:002010-07-23T10:56:56.198-04:00I have now had both parenting a child before loss ...I have now had both parenting a child before loss and after. They are both hard, but I really do think parenting after loss is harder. I think our patience is worn thinner faster, and we love more intensely. It's complex. <br /><br />I will say however that my relationship with Aaron is much stronger this time round, so I think that's a first time parenting challenge. It changes you and you have to learn to adjust. Aaron helps me a lot more this time around as he now understands how hard it is to be the primary care giver. (Aaron works in IT and sits on his butt all day.) He also understands that my coping skills are not as strong as they were before we lost Jordan. I get upset a lot more easily.<br /><br />The clean house thing? Hahahahaha. Drives me nuts too but I just have to prioritise. Give it time, you'll get your cleaning mojo back eventually but for now just go with it. I have to tell myself that a lot lately. I wish I could keep a cleaner house but I am just not superwoman.<br /><br />No matter what you do, I know you'll work it all out in time. You guys are awesome. xxxSophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663682329663202706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-18785143199091646282010-07-23T09:50:45.304-04:002010-07-23T09:50:45.304-04:00Parenting a living child has by far put the greate...Parenting a living child has by far put the greatest strain on our relationship ever...far greater than grieving for our dead one. I never imagined it would be so hard. It's been communication issues for us too, and like you, we're working our way through them.ezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.com