tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post2130312978822182061..comments2023-10-26T04:01:17.116-04:00Comments on My Life After Loss: It's Not Your FaultMichelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-14364439777214324902009-07-03T02:03:52.211-04:002009-07-03T02:03:52.211-04:00I am praying so hard that the cerclage will hold a...I am praying so hard that the cerclage will hold and that you will have your two lovely babies to love here on earth.<br /><br />I can relate to the feeling of guilt and failure with regard to loss. I have suffered one miscarriage and I remember feeling that I had failed the baby, that I could not keep it safe.<br /><br />May God's peace be with you.Annalienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08695828781625481890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-12021411152467654992009-07-03T00:01:42.054-04:002009-07-03T00:01:42.054-04:00Oh, Michele. You amaze me. You truly inspire me to...Oh, Michele. You amaze me. You truly inspire me to be a better person. I hope you know how incredible you are. :)<br /><br />Peace.Mommy (You can call me OM)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07330090628350118582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-11323898197902262132009-07-02T19:08:36.944-04:002009-07-02T19:08:36.944-04:00I've written this very same post time and agai...I've written this very same post time and again. I intimately understand that feeling of self-blame. As for looking for answers, I've been there too. I'm not adopted and I know I wasn't exposed to DES or anything else that should give me such a crummy cervix -- it's just what I have. Sometimes there are just no answers.<br /><br />As for bedrest not helping, it is. Though you've funneled to the stitch, the combination of the cerclage and the bedrest will do wonders for your pregnancy. I know it feels discouraging now, but hang in there. It was at 25 weeks with our Gracie that I was told I'd funneled and completely effaced and that the only thing holding my cervix closed was that little stitch. I stayed pregnant and in that state for 11 more weeks and had to be induced (and had to have aggressive dilation assistance) at delivery time at 36 weeks. This cerclage absolutely can hold, and my prayer for you is that it will.<br /><br />On another note, I now have the transabdominal cervicoisthmus cerclage. It's a cerclage that's placed above the cervix among the tendons in the isthmus of the uterus. When we were researching it before placement, I remember reading about a rescue placement done during pregnancy at 25 weeks along. I absolutely credit the TAC for this nearly normal bedrest-free pregnancy I'm having right now. A TAC placement might be something you consider for future pregnancies. Dr. Haney in Chicago would be considered the expert, but some local perinatologists/MFMs also place them. Your doctor could help you find information if you're interested, or I could. Also, there's an excellent support network on Yahoo groups called Abbyloopers. Loads of info there.<br /><br />Hang in there, and be encouraged. God is faithful, and He is mighty to save. Here is a scripture I rely on: "He settles the barren woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the Lord." (Psallm 113:9)Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10540060049975721555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-50929319586602326342009-07-02T17:34:36.463-04:002009-07-02T17:34:36.463-04:00I lost my little boy 10 weeks ago, and I just want...I lost my little boy 10 weeks ago, and I just wanted to let you know that I'm reading your journey and thinking of you and your family.Juliethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04998024692657131803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-91976145360488225112009-07-02T16:50:31.831-04:002009-07-02T16:50:31.831-04:00I totally struggle with questioning what I did wro...I totally struggle with questioning what I did wrong, that's so hard. <br /><br />Sounds like you have a GREAT Dr. I'm glad everything is continuing to go well!djordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03768892927584627891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-79033748941035180002009-07-02T16:31:57.820-04:002009-07-02T16:31:57.820-04:00I am so sorry you had to witness so much heartbrea...I am so sorry you had to witness so much heartbreak in the waiting room, particularly at such a tough time for you.<br /><br />I am so, so relieved that the cerclage is doing what it's supposed to do. I'm sending lots of prayers your way.Barefoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17514231523278098569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-81045847429198584392009-07-02T14:37:11.818-04:002009-07-02T14:37:11.818-04:00Your dr. seems to be great !!Your dr. seems to be great !!Monhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02922257732910859792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-66444010597130853412009-07-02T12:02:48.388-04:002009-07-02T12:02:48.388-04:00The "what if" is always going to be the ...The "what if" is always going to be the direction that everyone goes to in situations of death. <br />We all have a tendency to live in our little world. Now that I am blogging I see the world in such a different way. There is suffering that I knew existed but didn't really know. God has taken me to a place that is full of sadness and given my heart a whole new direction. Other then my aunt who lost a baby when I was just a toddler, I haven't really known how large your circle is. I feel so heartbroken for all of you. I just want to take each and every one of you in my arms and hug you until the pain goes away. God knows all and we have to put our trust in him and stop asking "what if." Take care & God Bless.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-69206035322591361812009-07-02T11:26:44.028-04:002009-07-02T11:26:44.028-04:00I too have felt the same way. WHY ME? And others...I too have felt the same way. WHY ME? And others seem to have it so easy. There is no explanantion for that I just tell myself that it will make me a better mother in the end. All of my babies were so loved and wanted!!! But once my rainbow baby makes there entrance into this world (which I hope is this one) I feel my joy/love etc will overflow. ((HUGS)) and its always nice to remember our little ones...Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16200467069135605282noreply@blogger.com