tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post8389603517441573747..comments2023-10-26T04:01:17.116-04:00Comments on My Life After Loss: 26w (Day 38: T-14)Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-7094053349486811352009-08-29T23:49:50.126-04:002009-08-29T23:49:50.126-04:00A sincere congratulations to all of you! Happy hap...A sincere congratulations to all of you! Happy happy happy 26 weeks--<br />navigating the cultural rituals of showers and celebrations while filled with longing and grief and fear and wonder and hope-- ahhhhhh I hope you are gentle with yourselves during this time- and know that the universe is filled with good intentions.<br /><br />I will keep my arms up toward the moon for you,<br />with big love,<br />KateKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12533501052787233233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-52807331501604359732009-08-29T23:43:25.802-04:002009-08-29T23:43:25.802-04:00Happy 26 weeks!!!! So happy to see you reach anoth...Happy 26 weeks!!!! So happy to see you reach another goal. And so good to hear that Bobby is doing better.Barefoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17514231523278098569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-83711389297628065412009-08-29T23:07:10.007-04:002009-08-29T23:07:10.007-04:00YEAH!! 26 weeks!! That is awesome Michele! I am so...YEAH!! 26 weeks!! That is awesome Michele! I am so excited for you guys! Your belly is beautiful!!!<br /><br />I could understand about being nervous about the shower- I would be afraid too. You have had such a rough go of it- but hopefully it will be a good experience. <br /><br />I know Bobby and Maya's sweet older siblings are cheering them on- and also cheering you on. I am sure they would want you to be happy and to enjoy this time. Enjoy the little mints, cake and ham sandwhichs. :) <br /><br />{{HUGS}}ME!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04165329812645814943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-77335570114290859612009-08-29T20:51:03.577-04:002009-08-29T20:51:03.577-04:00Michele, so thrilled for you that you've made ...Michele, so thrilled for you that you've made it to 26 weeks! And thank you for your words about Ezra, we are missing him deeply today.ezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-74799401667858362472009-08-29T19:59:46.160-04:002009-08-29T19:59:46.160-04:00Happy 26 Weeks to you! Congrats! 1 Goal down!Happy 26 Weeks to you! Congrats! 1 Goal down!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03661220372372737455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-84907842573684001682009-08-29T19:13:10.755-04:002009-08-29T19:13:10.755-04:00Happy 26 weeks!! And hooray for Bobby's improv...Happy 26 weeks!! And hooray for Bobby's improved heart monitoring.<br /><br />I'm not having a baby shower at all, for lots of reasons unrelated to loss. <br /><br />For what it's worth, personally if I were a guest at your shower I would welcome an acknowledgement of Nicholas, Sophia, and Alexander. Just as older living siblings are invariably mentioned at a baby shower, Bobby and Maya's siblings don't need to be hidden. I wonder if that might help you to reconcile the happiness of the day with what you missed two years ago.<br /><br />I also wanted to mention that having already read all of your updates since you've been in the hospital has been helpful for me now that I'm in the hospital too. I know so much better what to expect than I would have! So, thank you.Baby Smiling In Back Seathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06483533946303787478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-52141230032519680572009-08-29T16:02:22.662-04:002009-08-29T16:02:22.662-04:00Great news on the baby front. Praying for them to ...Great news on the baby front. Praying for them to be full term.<br />I can only imagine your fear for the baby showers. There is no way you can just put those fears behind you. I will pray for your comfort and pray that God will let you know that this time is different and you can go forward with real hope, enjoying the showers alone the way.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-73970916914045010862009-08-29T14:17:07.530-04:002009-08-29T14:17:07.530-04:00Look at you! Ups and downs abound, but you just ke...Look at you! Ups and downs abound, but you just keep on going and those babies are healthy and happy and growing big! I'm so glad that Bobby's heart has settled into a healthier rhythm and I hope the visit with the specialist on Monday brings nothing but good news. <br />I can't imagine how complicated your relationship with baby showers must be, but as I was reading I thought that this part, from 26 weeks on, the part with the baby showers etc... will be a part of processing and mentally preparing for a stage that is going to be so exciting, but also so challenging and different for you and your husband, hopefully it will be a time when the babies continue to do wonderfully and you have time for emotional processing & healing. I wish you the very best as you forge ahead!Busted Tubehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12111014136194033674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-54700992481788521892009-08-29T13:44:33.587-04:002009-08-29T13:44:33.587-04:0026 weeks... I almost can't believe it is alrea...26 weeks... I almost can't believe it is already here. Congratulations!<br />Your invitation is adorable!cheryllookingforwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04558612718225988674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-14929602383616420842009-08-29T13:39:16.612-04:002009-08-29T13:39:16.612-04:00yay for 26 weeks! i remember that milestone well....yay for 26 weeks! i remember that milestone well. what a huge relief. and there will more to come. :-)<br />on the baby shower thing, i totally hear you. i was actually just plain dreading mine. i was so worried about what was going on and what might happen that i couldn't imagine sitting around (ok, lying around) and pretending everything was normal. it wound up being a wonderful day, and i know yours will too. <br />so happy for you at 26 weeks.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04701961277124384252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-1939264121225866982009-08-29T13:20:31.249-04:002009-08-29T13:20:31.249-04:00Oh Michele!! 26 WEEKS, DONE!!!!
We are really do...Oh Michele!! 26 WEEKS, DONE!!!!<br /><br />We are really doing it, one day at a time, slowly but surely. I am so excited the new 28 week countdown has begun. I am overjoyed at Bobby's progress. Go big babies!<br /><br />As for the showers, I too understand. My first one is next week (at 27 weeks) and I am nervous. I have been waiting so long to have one, it almost doesn't feel real. I hope you enjoy the celebration, knowing everyone remembers your older children too.<br /><br />Much love and happy 26!Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08249032117071588918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-9789548613402326822009-08-29T13:18:41.953-04:002009-08-29T13:18:41.953-04:00congrats michelle!!!! I am soooo proud of you!! wh...congrats michelle!!!! I am soooo proud of you!! what an awsome moment. it was at 27 weeks that i went into the hospital with megan so i know what you are feeling in some way. i too was afraid of a baby shower for megan after aaron died but you know what? having her to hold and home from the hospital on his 1st birthday was a godsend. just enjoy all the gifts and fun that goes along with the baby shower.<br />love sarahsarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-81461060732534742852009-08-29T13:13:23.750-04:002009-08-29T13:13:23.750-04:00congrats! that is great news.
I am glad you and yo...congrats! that is great news.<br />I am glad you and your hubby liked the picture.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276575383753334435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-62998659404788206672009-08-29T12:48:32.825-04:002009-08-29T12:48:32.825-04:00Happy Goal Day!Happy Goal Day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-87572315209297867962009-08-29T12:46:51.424-04:002009-08-29T12:46:51.424-04:00Michele, I am so very, very glad that you are so c...Michele, I am so very, very glad that you are so close to going home, and to being able to celebrate your beautiful babies with others. I know it is so normal to think about "what should be" at the same time - you're so amazingly strong and supportive to others. Thank you.Mother Knows Best Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07127811116486063201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-4774169335850832892009-08-29T12:24:29.639-04:002009-08-29T12:24:29.639-04:00Oh such a relief that the babes are doing so well!...Oh such a relief that the babes are doing so well! Way to go, Robert! And you get to go to another 2w countdown - woohoo! 38 weeks, here you come!<br /><br />I totally get how you feel about the baby showers. As much as I wanted to enjoy my last pregnancy, the fear - fear of everything - got in the way. It's the worst thing about all this, that so much of the innocent joy is gone forever. It's going to be a bittersweet time for you, but I really hope you can enjoy the sweet and hold onto the bitter to mull over and mourn over later. <br /><br />People - especially people who know what you've been through - just want to celebrate the new lives you're bringing into the world, and baby showers are almost the only way our culture knows to celebrate that. They'll understand that you feel a little conflicted about it all. <br /><br />If it helps, in a way, these baby showers are for <i>all</i> the babies you've had, not just Robert & Maya. It's okay to be sad that not all of your children are there laughing at the joke gifts and being done in by a friend's pure thoughtfulness. <br /><br />You deserve the chance to laugh a bit, you've been through so many tears. I hope you can enjoy these upcoming days. You're in my thoughts.Sprogbloggerhttp://www.sprogblogger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-55855563050148378152009-08-29T12:14:11.454-04:002009-08-29T12:14:11.454-04:00Oh Michele I am so so happy for your 26w mark! Of ...Oh Michele I am so so happy for your 26w mark! Of course it's not over yet but this is a great goal and your little ones are doing really well which is great. Sending you much love, FranFranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05717020378275616297noreply@blogger.com