tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post8179015870694759995..comments2023-10-26T04:01:17.116-04:00Comments on My Life After Loss: Ramblings...Michelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-71653512845209453142009-02-14T13:14:00.000-05:002009-02-14T13:14:00.000-05:00I cant say I cant believe what the woman said, but...I cant say I cant believe what the woman said, but in todays world where a pregnancy is only viewed as something wonderful because you are "trying" , loosing a baby during pregnancy, IMHO, for them means nothing. Those are the people who think it wasnt a life, those are the people who believe that its not that big of a deal and you have proof of it. <BR/><BR/>Dont listen to them. Its very warming to read what your rituall with your beloved children are. My father does something like that for my niece. He visits her grave every week, and this past weekend, we left her a beautiful wreath with roses and a teddy bear for Valentines day. She was much older than your kids when she was born, in gestation. She was beautiful though. I might go ahead and celebrate her bday this year like you do with your kids. Thanks for the idea and I hope you dont mind me doing that.Texicanic Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15288662003655767587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-40616303790431967952009-02-14T13:13:00.000-05:002009-02-14T13:13:00.000-05:00Wow this is an incredibly deep post, it has resona...Wow this is an incredibly deep post, it has resonated with me profoundly. I am so sorry that people dont undertsand how you want to celebrate your children, I think it is a personal choice that no one should judge, and I am sorry that people hve made you feel badly. You are an incredibly brave and strong woman who loves her children deeply. <BR/>Thank you for sharing Yoda's words, I have to admit, when I read Yoda I smiled and even chuckled a little, but his words are so true!<BR/>Subsequent children will never replace the children we have lost, and we as mothers who have lost our children, know this all too well. <BR/>Thank you for sharing your feelings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-25557717122483141562009-02-13T20:34:00.000-05:002009-02-13T20:34:00.000-05:00So many things to say...-That woman who said those...So many things to say...<BR/><BR/>-That woman who said those things to you is horrible, and like someone else said, heartless. How dare she tell you not to remember your babies.<BR/><BR/>-Being pregnant again will not take away the sadness of losing 3 children. It will bring new happiness of (hopefully) getting to keep this 1 child.<BR/><BR/>-I absolutely love Revenge of the Sith. For the reasons you said and many more that involve fear of losing the ones we love, and the lengths we will go to keep them with us.Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-23532939508095007532009-02-13T16:18:00.000-05:002009-02-13T16:18:00.000-05:00Why does moving on have to mean forgetting? It's ...Why does moving on have to mean forgetting? It's beautiful that you remember them for all their life and the love you feel for them. Should you give up that love?<BR/>Your life IS moving on, you're trying again to add more love to your life. <BR/><BR/>That's just a weird thing to say. I'm sorry you had to face that sort of heartlessness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-22694342280676375802009-02-13T16:05:00.000-05:002009-02-13T16:05:00.000-05:00Wow. Why are people so harsh? Reading that somebod...Wow. Why are people so harsh? Reading that somebody told you move on with your life just pierced my heart. It's as if people think we should act as though pregnancy is simply a state of being, having nothing to do with another life. They think that once we cease being pregnant, it's just a new state of being - completely ignoring that a life was lost. Moving on with our lives does not mean we forget the lives of others and how they impact us. <BR/>I wish you peace. I'm happy you're celebrating your baby's life.Mommy (You can call me OM)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07330090628350118582noreply@blogger.com