tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post7354701790305476846..comments2023-10-26T04:01:17.116-04:00Comments on My Life After Loss: Catching UpMichelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-30333516046590423262009-11-30T22:38:23.872-05:002009-11-30T22:38:23.872-05:00I felt like I was reading straight from your heart...I felt like I was reading straight from your heart. I can only imagine the heartache you feel looking at Bobby and Maya and longing for Sophia, Nicholas, and Alexander... (((HUGS)))<br /><br />I am glad to read that Peter's company offers such great reimbursements for Adoption as well as the Infertility coverage. We're in the boat of comparing the two now ourselves. Fun stuff.<br /><br />I wanted to tell you though, straight Corn Starch to diaper rashes is the best around! Clears it up amazingly quick and is cheap without any extra ingredients that can cause irritations. :-) Learned this from my mom who used it with all four of us kids {I have extremely sensitive skin too} and I use it when needed with all the children I've cared for. :-)<br /><br />Hope you enjoy all the firsts this holiday season!The Swann'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03897080926759273403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-77578824861186508392009-11-29T21:40:01.719-05:002009-11-29T21:40:01.719-05:00The nurses say about every baby that it was the be...The nurses say about every baby that it was the best they ever had, to please the mom, just so you knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-50803202736142068102009-11-29T20:15:10.914-05:002009-11-29T20:15:10.914-05:00I love hearing about Bobby and Maya's progress...I love hearing about Bobby and Maya's progress. <br /><br />I've posted before that I thought you'd be a great adoptive mom. (I'm an a-parent to two daughters from China.) I'm glad to see that you're giving adoption serious consideration.<br /><br />Don't let financial concerns hold you back from adoption. If Peter's business gives him a grant, there is also the Adoption Tax Credit that currently covers most of the cost of the adoption. (We received about 85% of the cost of our second adoption back.) Plus some domestic adoptions, esp. from foster care, can be less than others.<br /><br />The main requirement to adopt is the willingness to open your hearts and your lives to a child not biologically your own. And I think you and Peter sound perfectly able to meet this most important requirement.<br /><br />Give yourselves some time and let the twins get through toddlerhood. Enjoy them! But knowing that your next step might be adoption can bring you enormous peace. I know that it did for us.Mikenjanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15607006185172363777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-43951326245020180832009-11-29T11:42:59.763-05:002009-11-29T11:42:59.763-05:00Go Maya. A girl after my own heart, I see. When I ...Go Maya. A girl after my own heart, I see. When I was a baby, my nickname was 'The Gannet' because I was such a big eater! And starting to crawl. Wow.<br /><br />Poor Bobby. When J was in hospital they had this stuff that was like clingfilm that they put over any rashes. Worked like a dream but I can't remember the name. Grrrr. <br /><br />The vaccines, that feeling of being torn between pride and tears. I felt that. J hardly made a squeak and the poor child has been vaccinated against everything going. All the standards plus RSV plus four lots of flu. <br /><br />And the pain. I can't really imagine, I can only try and understand a little. Sometimes I feel like that I don't really know what I lost when G died, it gets revealed slowly as J grows.<br /><br />I don't know what to do about having another child either. I guess if G had lived, I probably wouldn't have had any more children. I don't know what the chances of me giving birth prematurely again but it makes me think long and hard. <br /><br />Gosh, write on my own blog why don't I? I loved reading this post, there was so much in it. xoCatherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-43888485073900653022009-11-29T10:41:06.452-05:002009-11-29T10:41:06.452-05:00i identify so much with starting something and it ...i identify so much with starting something and it takes all day to finish!<br /><br />i have a whole tube of that boudreaux's butt paste if you want it, let me know. (i know i was supposed to send you a baby gift...i chickened out and couldn't send it. but i do still have your addy somewhere.)<br /><br />naomi also has really sensitive skin. the butt paste had too much zinc oxide in it and it irritated her further, which is why it's practically brand new. we also tried aveeno cream and that worked ok. but the thing that's worked best is actually an ointment called A&D. it's petroleum jelly and lanolin and it worked really well.<br /><br />i need to chase my own crawler so i can't respond to everything else. all i can say is watch out! naomi was rolling over when she was only 6 weeks old and as you know she has been crawling for a while already! i think maya's going to be on the move sooner than you'd think. also as soon as she's able to roll...good luck getting her to sleep on her back! :(Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-57519292666402424272009-11-29T09:58:21.846-05:002009-11-29T09:58:21.846-05:00I love that the kids are just grow-grow-growing! ...I love that the kids are just grow-grow-growing! Maya is just ridiculously far ahead of where she should be - that's great! And little Bobby - I love that they want to be so close together.<br /><br />I think it's so smart to be exploring adoption and thinking of all of this now. There are so many concerns and worries, and you're not even discussing your own health. You're a wonder, Michele. :)Mother Knows Best Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07127811116486063201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-54420614441657526912009-11-29T09:39:09.256-05:002009-11-29T09:39:09.256-05:00I've heard that triple paste is really good. H...I've heard that triple paste is really good. Hopefully it works! Your pumps make me laugh, especially Breast Michaels. :)<br /><br />It would be tough to take care of your little ones while being pregnant on bedrest. I'm sure you've went through all the scenarios.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-50454084600898697812009-11-29T09:16:51.040-05:002009-11-29T09:16:51.040-05:00Michele, this was a great post.
I certainly imag...Michele, this was a great post. <br /><br />I certainly imagine your feelings of not having Alexander, Nicholas and Sophia with you. I imagine those feelings are completely natural. I also imagine feeling the same way when that time comes for us. I imagine its inevitable. <br /><br />Maya and Bobby are truely amazing and continuously getting stronger. I am so excited for you guys. *hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-89267671991970885842009-11-29T00:32:05.050-05:002009-11-29T00:32:05.050-05:00Bobby doesnt have to have a rash with the sensitiv...Bobby doesnt have to have a rash with the sensitive skin. What diapers are you using? Have you tried cloth diapers? The rash is often cause of the chemicals that are used in the disposable diapers and the cloth diapered babies have close to no rash unless they are sensitive to their own urine (which is extremely rare) Its better then put tons of various even if eco, creams to irritate it even further. If you want to know more, look up "Leap of cloth diapering" on google, there is some very interesting readingMonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02922257732910859792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-50696598182085138062009-11-28T23:33:26.910-05:002009-11-28T23:33:26.910-05:00I've been following your story for a few month...I've been following your story for a few months now and it's wonderful that they you are all home and doing so well. <br /><br />This is not a criticism in any way, but I'm wondering if you could address your insurance coverage. Obviously it's an issue for us infertiles and some are luckier than others as to how much our plan covers. But usually blogs talk about whether things like testing/IUI/IVF are covered. <br /><br />You three spent a long time in the hospital and since you haven't mentioned your coverage, I'd imagine that you have a great plan (or at least I hope you do!) or you're in Canada :)<br /><br />With all of the health care debate going on in the news right now, I've just been thinking about the issue a lot, especially coverage for "pre-existing conditions". <br /><br />Your post on having more kids made me hope you wouldn't have problems with OB coverage in the future but I'd be interested to hear your take on it. You're definitely coming from a place of experience, for good or bad.<br /><br />Again, absolutely no criticism implied here. Just interested in reading a first-hand account from someone who probably knows more about what she's talking about than the talking heads in DC :) Thanks!Amynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-44219276818158103392009-11-28T22:53:20.705-05:002009-11-28T22:53:20.705-05:00Beautiful post Michele. The part about "Pain...Beautiful post Michele. The part about "Pain" really touched me. It must be such a hard position to be in, to long so badly for the children who are not with us, but yet know that if things weren't this way, those who are with you wouldn't be here. You said you and Peter always wanted a large family and to me, you have it, just not in the traditional sense. :) xxTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149337445828424583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-26085639314542892502009-11-28T21:40:35.006-05:002009-11-28T21:40:35.006-05:00Thank you for this post, so much of it spoke to me...Thank you for this post, so much of it spoke to me and drew me in. Because of the timing of this child's conceptions I can't say that he wouldn't exist but for losing our twins - but it wouldn't have been likely. And I anticipate this conflict you describe. <br /><br />And, ah yes - another pregnancy :) I absolutely understand thinking about that now. Now is when the reality of pregnancy is the most fresh and accurate, really. Maybe it makes *more* sense to think about it now. I'm also scared that I will one day have such fears - is it fair to the rest of my family to do this again? Who knows. <br /><br />((Hugs)) honey. So glad you had a chance to catch up a bit, even if it did take you all day :)Bluebirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05026618678540051581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-20047479032308624842009-11-28T21:29:14.493-05:002009-11-28T21:29:14.493-05:00I loved hearing about the crawling and rolling ove...I loved hearing about the crawling and rolling over and holding the head because that's just like Colby. We met with EI a few weeks ago and she said it's pretty typical of babies in the NICU for so long because they've had so much practice and because usually they get PT and/or OT in the hospital with lots of really qualified nurses there to help them really progress. :) It's hilarious to watch!Stacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06675197616280434252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-61022575695141536462009-11-28T21:29:14.494-05:002009-11-28T21:29:14.494-05:00The second I saw Jess's referral picture I kne...The second I saw Jess's referral picture I knew she was our daughter; it felt very similar to seeing Jason's ultrasound pic except that the features were much more clear*S*. My labor with Jess was the long trip to China and the 2 days there before she was placed in my arms. I still get teary when I think of the moment she was placed in my arms by the ayi.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01239906850935331782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-12423388752040771572009-11-28T21:26:51.415-05:002009-11-28T21:26:51.415-05:00Well I read every word you wrote.
I'm so happy...Well I read every word you wrote.<br />I'm so happy your babies are home and that they are doing so well.<br />I never even knew about the choices of shots. I just trusted our doctor 30 years ago with my childrens shots. I know your heart is heavy with thought, especially when it comes to not having Bobby and Maya by not having your other children. That is a hard one to swallow. ((HUGS)) I understand where you are coming from with how your body handles being pregnant and being pregnant while Maya/Bobby are still young. Also, putting future babies at risk. I am so sorry that you have to have these things going through your mind all the time. I pray for your comfort and peace of mind. Relax and enjoy each moment you have with Bobby and Maya. They are growing quickly right in front of your eyes.Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-74468416127157562192009-11-28T21:11:16.790-05:002009-11-28T21:11:16.790-05:00I understand the not wanting to go through this ag...I understand the not wanting to go through this again. I'm there too. I can't see myself putting my family through that much stress again.<br /><br />I think its great that you want to adopt. Sometimes I think about fostering children, but thats a long way off.<br /><br />I didn't know that you had super-sensitive skin like me. I have a wonder cream if you are interested. Made by an Aussie chemist here who sells internationally.<br /><br />http://www.hoskingspharmacy.com/baby-infant-face-rashes_hypoallergenic.<br /><br />Let me know if you need any advice on how to treat sensitive skin in Bobby and Maya. <br /><br />Sophie<br />xx<br /><br />BTW I hate growth spurts!!! Inconsolable babies are heartwrenching!Sophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17663682329663202706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-65599361560117180952009-11-28T20:10:12.757-05:002009-11-28T20:10:12.757-05:00I appreciate your updates on how things are going ...I appreciate your updates on how things are going at home.<br /><br />FWIW, there is an actual cream called "Butt Paste" that I used for LG! It's great stuff. We still use it on occasion when she has, uh, issues.gwinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840990153103781272noreply@blogger.com