tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post2198017521306162918..comments2023-10-26T04:01:17.116-04:00Comments on My Life After Loss: Working MotherMichelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17681333723382119281noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-11121081036372864972011-02-08T23:36:40.664-05:002011-02-08T23:36:40.664-05:00My mother, a true bra-burning woman's rights g...My mother, a true bra-burning woman's rights gal, told me that what her generation fought for was the right to choose. A woman should not have to be forced to work, or to stay at home. They should be able to choose how they want to live and they should not be put down for whatever choice they make. <br /><br />She also told me that when someone is mean like that, there is usually something else going on. She may have had a bad day, or missed her child's first word that week, you never know.<br /><br />On a lighter note, I frequently request that my husband trade me "jobs," I'll go to work and he stays at home with the 3 kids. He has yet to take me up on the offer :)momstepmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477196689670390783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-57523827999209835032011-02-08T22:29:09.465-05:002011-02-08T22:29:09.465-05:00I think (or at least would like to think) that it ...I think (or at least would like to think) that it was more jealousy than judgment on her part. You are lucky because you have the choice to be with your kids instead of putting time in at work where maybe your (her) heart isn't in it even though home work is VERY hard. At least that's how I feel.. envious of having that choice. If I chose to work, that's fine, but I can't choose simply because if I don't work full time, we won't have adequate health care, and that sucks. It's bitter that otherwise we could afford for me to work part time, which would be the ultimate for me. I don't want to give up my work completely, but neither am I invested in it like I am my home and this baby. I YEARN to be with him more. It kills me sometimes. I hate missing as much as I do, and I hate that so much decision making on his raising is between us and our daycare provider. But at the same time, I'm learning a lot this way I guess.<br /><br />Sorry you had a bad experience. :(Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-47469118619063680202011-02-08T21:06:56.324-05:002011-02-08T21:06:56.324-05:00Someone I know recently was struggling with being ...Someone I know recently was struggling with being a stay-at-home and posted it on facebook and someone responded "I wish I could be a stay at home mom i would read and exercise all day." and I just couldn't believe the ignorance- to think that's what I do all day long- just idle time to relax and do as I please. Its a horrible thing- I wish women wouldn't do this to each other.Aishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00756390674173743871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-56642845130950629942011-02-08T00:28:53.776-05:002011-02-08T00:28:53.776-05:00Hey! I'm glad you've came across my blog....Hey! I'm glad you've came across my blog. I tried to follow yours but for some reason it says the blog can't be found? Weird. I think what you said is exactly right though. I think whether or not you work outside the home, or your a stay at home mommy, it's all work. I think some people do think it's a luxery to stay home and don't think of all of the demands a stay at home mom has. I work part-time outside of our home, and I'm busy when I'm away, but I'm even more busy when I'm at home lol. You sound like you do a great job!Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11343454100745184293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-27515431000895409392011-02-07T20:18:14.185-05:002011-02-07T20:18:14.185-05:00"Regardless of working outside the home or in..."Regardless of working outside the home or in it, I think we all end up working AND being a full time mom." <br /><br />I like this. I think everyone should do what works best for their own family and not try to make others feel like their choices are wrong. I joined a moms group in the area and almost left after the first couple outings when a few women told me they could never stand being a "part-time mom". I work outside the home, partly by choice and partly by necessity, but that certainly does not make me a part time mom. I can't understand why women feel the need to tear each other down.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01239906850935331782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-91092439219150417382011-02-07T19:37:27.566-05:002011-02-07T19:37:27.566-05:00Your house sounds similar to ours. We could certai...Your house sounds similar to ours. We could certainly do with the extra money and do really struggle some weeks, but I want to be home with Angus. My career can wait, he will only be little for so long.<br />I'm proud of my choices and it sounds like you are, too. I wish other people could just respect our choices.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-75594641663264131232011-02-07T16:50:21.661-05:002011-02-07T16:50:21.661-05:00I honestly don't know if I could be a SAHM. S...I honestly don't know if I could be a SAHM. Seriously. I need adult conversation and I am a terrible housekeeper, LOL. Plus, I have the benefits, so it's really just not possible for me to NOT work. I admire SAHMs, I really do. Because it's something that would drive me nuts. So kudos to you! With 2 kiddos at home!Kakunaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09680945395324128951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1809677799536184324.post-28548416692525732962011-02-07T16:30:53.363-05:002011-02-07T16:30:53.363-05:00aww michele! it's true people really don't...aww michele! it's true people really don't understand that staying home with your kids is so much work.<br /><br />i stay home with naomi on wednesdays and everyone at my job is always asking if i had a relaxing day off. YEAH RIGHT! it's way more exhausting staying home with naomi, hands down!<br /><br />that's not to say it doesn't feel like so much extra work preparing for daycare...getting all the cooking etc. done in one day. it's really hard only seeing naomi for a few minutes before work in the morning, and for about an hour before bed at night. <br /><br />i'd pick staying home with her in a HEARTBEAT, and i'm sure mean grocery store lady would, too. it IS more work, but it's work i'd so much rather do. i bet she was just jealous...i know i am. ;)Rebahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16739267142330427759noreply@blogger.com